DADS, DATING AND CHILDREN: HOW TO EASE THE TRANSITION

In 2006, the United States Census Bureau reported nearly 2.3 million single fathers living in the United States, an upward trend from the 2.1 million estimated in 1998. While some of these men choose to remain single parents, others venture back into the dating scene, a situation requiring them to proceed with caution, so as not to put their children in harm's way. The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) advises that men re-entering the dating scene must first be considerate of their children's feelings. It also offers single dads the following tips to ensure their children remain secure if someone new is introduced into their lives:

Take it slow. If you recently went through a divorce, it is best to give your children some time to adjust before you enter a new relationship. A new person in your life should, especially, be kept discreet until your children have adjusted to your new living arrangements.

- Be Honest. Talk to your children about their feelings, both positive and negative, dating and how it may adjust your current situation.

- Plan accordingly. This will help you prevent unexpected mishaps. Have a reliable babysitter scheduled or schedule a date night on an evening when your children are not at home.

- Be Selective. You should not introduce a date to your children unless it is clear you are in a committed, long-term relationship. Introducing each new person you date to your children may cause them to become confused and/or unstable.

- Provide reassurance. It is critical you remind your children that your love for them will not change with the addition of a new adult in their lives.

If you are a single father who feels your children are having a more difficult time than normal getting adjusted to your new dating life, you may consider seeking family counseling. A Marriage and Family Therapist is trained to assess, diagnose and treat individuals and families. To learn more about mental health or to locate an MFT, visit http://www.CounselingCalifornia.com.

About CAMFT
The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), with 27 chapters throughout the state, is an independent professional organization, representing the interests of licensed Marriage and Family Therapists. For more information about CAMFT, please call (858) 292-2638 or http://www.CounselingCalifornia.com/. Website: http://www.CounselingCalifornia.com/

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